10 Secrets of a Well-Balanced Caregiver

by Gail M. Samaha

While there is some small comfort in knowing that the pressures you feel are shared by many others, the bottom line to this very personal matter is simple: finding the time and services that can help make your life and the lives of your aging parents a little easier. As you care for your elder (either living with you or still in their own home); find the balance you need each day to continue to provide great care for your loved one and yourself.

1. Plan for winter safety

This is a time when caregivers' concerns accelerate as their loved ones are negotiating the challenges of another winter. Consider doing the following:

• Fall prevention – inside and out. Remove scatter rugs and secure handrails at all entrances of the house.
• Be sure your elderly parents have the proper snow shoes or boots when walking outside.
• Arrange for snow removal of driveway, walkway and don't forget the mailbox that's located away from the house.
• Adequate heating – you can arrrange for automatic delivery of heating oil (elders have priority for reinstatement of electricity if the power goes out).
• If your elderly parent is still driving, check to see if the car is set with an overall winter protection (e.g. oil change, tires, battery, blankets, water, AAA membership). It is also a good time to reassess if your aging parent should still be driving.

2. Ensure emotional well-being

The first of the year is when the blues are very prevalent with the let down of the holiday as the family returns home, sunshine is rare in many places and getting out every day can be a challenge. You can help your parents by:

• Making sure they're getting some exercise (walking in a mall, neighborhood, exercises at a local senior center.)
• Checking B-12 (if low, it could impact memory), Vitamin D, and thyroid levels.
• Scheduling a weekly event they can look forward to (a movie, dinner out, or a visit by you or a friend).

3. Plan ahead for doctors' appointments

If you're unable to assist your loved one, make arrangements with a sibling, friend, aide or neighbor. Afterwards, have them communicate to you the doctors' feedback and next steps. Some communities have transportation services for the elderly. Check with your Area Agency on Aging.

4. Ask for help when you need it

Know that you don't have to do it all. -- whether it's taking your loved one to a doctor's appointment, concerned about what to do next or just feeling overwhelmed. Know there are many resources to support your care-giving needs through websites, books and groups.

5. Seek family support

Maintaining open communications with immediate family members and siblings gives you a chance to ask for help with various tasks. Plan a weekly check-in with friends and relatives to update them on your elderly parents condition (AgingCare has a new online tool to help you accomplish this) and get the help you need, reducing your care-giving workload and alleviating some stress.

6. Reassess your elderly parent's situation

This is a good time to take an inventory of their overall health, financial picture, and living needs. Now is the time to begin compiling a to-do list to be implemented over a period of time. Medical information should include your loved one's health conditions, prescriptions and their doctor's names and contact numbers. A financial list should contain property ownership and debts, income and expenses, and bank account and credit card information. You should also have access to all of your parent(s) vital documents that could include their will, power of attorney, birth certificate, social security number, insurance policies, deed to their home, and driver's license.

7. Hire an elder care professional

First and foremost, always remember why you are assisting your parent(s) and know that you are doing the best that you know how by providing your love, patience and support. Don't be afraid to ask for help, as it may be time to contact an elder care consultant who will make caregiving easier for you. An elder care consultant will provide tools and resources to develop a personal plan that outlines manageable next steps to ensure the best possible care. Be certain to look for an elder care consultant who partners with an extensive group of trusted advisors (geriatric care managers, home care specialists, living facility directors, visiting nurses, financial planners and elder law attorneys) to provide you with comprehensive planning solutions and services well beyond your loved one's medical needs -- as well as peace of mind.

8. Schedule fun time for yourself on a regular basis

You need something to look forward to – whether it's time with a good friend or spouse, a weekend away, a family game night or just being alone.

9. Take good care of yourself

Before anyone else, you need to take care of yourself first. Eat well; get some exercise; get enough sleep; and be sure you're also getting your annual physicals. It's not an indulgence – it's a necessity!

10. Let go of the caregiver guilt

There's no room or energy for any guilt. You're no longer a child but an adult trying to care for an aging parent while still trying to have your own life. Remember, your parent was able to live their life and it is okay to want to do the same. Know that you're doing the best you can in caring for them.

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Gail M. Samaha is the founder of GMS Associates. She is a successful management consultant who from her own personal experience along with her background as a hospice volunteer and 30 years of business management, created an elder care planning division for elders and caregivers and trusted advisors.